There is a time for everything: a time to laugh, a time to cry, a time to grieve and a time to dance, a time to love and a time to hate, a time to embrace and a time to turn away. Where are you in your life?
We live our short existence in seasons, and that’s ok, because there is a time and place for almost everything under the sun. But for some of us, we find ourselves ensnared in one never-ending season: winter.
I think back to my days as a younger woman in her early twenties. I had lost my father to depression and alcoholism and was left alone to my own devices. I had no siblings and a dysfunctional relationship with my mother. I found myself in a place filled with turmoil and unhappiness. I even tried to end my life. But eventually I found God and was pulled out of the muck and mire. I was happier again – for a short while – before slipping back into the arms of a former lover, that is, the comfortable misery I had once known.
I can truly imagine how Jonah must have felt when he was swallowed by the whale! In my opinion, the belly of the monster [depression] is a dark, cold and desolate place to be trapped in. Yet, I’ve been in this place before; I’ve actually come full circle! While crying helplessly in the shower yesterday, apparently for no reason whatsoever, it dawned on me that I’m familiar with this feeling of despair. I am also concerned about how much of the so-called depression gene I have inherited from my father. Perhaps I really do suffer from dysthymia?
According to research, the Greek word dysthymia refers to a ‘bad state of mind’ or ‘ill humour’. It is characterised as one of the two forms of clinical depression, although it apparently has less serious symptoms than major depression, but lasts longer. The American Psychiatric Association defines dysthymia as a depressed mood most of the time for at least two years, along with at least two of the following symptoms: poor appetite or overeating; insomnia or excessive sleep; low energy or fatigue; low self-esteem; poor concentration or indecisiveness; and hopelessness. Some experts surmise that dysthymia ‘runs in families and probably has a hereditary component’. Other proposed symptoms of dysthymia include ‘a strong tendency to be critical of oneself and others, pessimism, guilt, brooding and gloominess’.
Where I am, I don’t want to be. I feel as if I’m mourning the life I wanted to have. I know I have so much to be thankful for, so much to celebrate – right now I’m just in the belly of the monster, and I can’t find the exit sign!
- Down the depression rabbit hole (teatart.com)
- Dysthymia – How I Got Here (dysthymiahelp.wordpress.com)
- Types of depression, see if you suffer from depression and how to treat it (dealingwithdepressionblog.wordpress.com)
- 30 Major Depressive Disorder Symptoms: Are You Depressed? (colonz.wordpress.com)
- Saving Normal – Another Point of View (noahsprojectblog.wordpress.com)
- I’ve got depression and I know it…… (lifebefore40.wordpress.com)