When things go wrong, they normally do so on a grand scale. Ask anyone you know how wrong things can really go … ask me. Descriptive terms like “cascading effects” and “downhill slide” don’t actually do any justice, but it’s a start.
Silly as it may sound, I had a bit of a personal crisis when I turned thirty. I looked back at my twenties and saw only the bad things: the things I didn’t accomplish, all the apparently unfulfilled hopes and dreams. After the past year though, those years look more like a walk in the park than tough times.
Let me tell you, I’m not superstitious by any means. I have no qualms about walking under a ladder or a black cat crossing in front of me. Surprisingly then, the whole “bad things happen in threes” is oddly fitting. Case in point: I suffered with depression last year like never before (strike one), I lost my job after being retrenched (strike two), and then for the finale, I finally fell pregnant after trying for quite some time and after 9 weeks had a silent miscarriage (strike three). Like I said, when things go wrong, it really does feel like things go from bad to worse.
Of course, shit happens! Whether you’re Oscar Pistorius or just a normal Joe Soap (like me), it is unfortunately a guarantee that at some stage our lives will be affected by turmoil, disappointment and tragedy. Luckily the degree and duration thereof differs (I’m damn happy that I’m not the one on trial for murder!).
No matter how bad a situation may seem and no matter how we may wish for time to pass us by, a new day will always dawn. I still fully prescribe time off to sulk and skulk around in pyjamas with scruffy hair, unbrushed teeth and no deodorant, but don’t fool yourself, the time will come when a choice has to be made, and that is, the choice to keep living.
It will be about getting back to basics. Get up, shower, brush your teeth and hair, spritz on the perfume and walk out the door. The best medicine is as simple as facing the world and literally taking things step by step or day by day. Getting back to basics is about focusing on the little things that help to get us through the day. It’s also about not dwelling on the pain, grief or anger and allowing the healing process to begin.
Whoever first said that time heals all wounds is a wise man (or woman).