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Addictions can be good

I’m tickled pink! My fellow blogger, Being a Beautiful Mess, nominated me this week for “The Addictive Blog Award”.  I’m even more humbled by the fact that little Teatart could be nominated by such a thought-provoking blogger such as Beautifulmess.

The Addictive Blog AwardThe rules of the “The Addictive Blog Award” require that I thank the person awarding me and share my story on why and how I started blogging. Beautifulmess, you are truly extraordinary.  Thank you for sharing your intimate experiences with such honestly and wit.  You continue to inspire me.

As to why I blog, I can only say that writing has always been my first love. From an early age I have written stories and expressed my emotional trials and tribulations through poetry. Without writing, I would be incomplete.  Blogging is simply an extension of my writing.  It provides me with an outlet to share my life in the hope that others will be able to relate to my story and be encouraged (as I am by other bloggers).

Truth be told, when I started blogging only recently, I had a concrete plan on what I would be writing about and who I would be communicating with.  Plans are good, but I’ve quickly learnt that blogging is somewhat of a painter’s canvas – the picture changes as the artist continues painting.  My blog, Teatart, is exactly that:  my own ever-developing artwork.

Since I started Teatart, I’ve had the honour of interacting with so many motivating bloggers.  Whereas I felt alone as a former cheater, a divorcee, an insecure thirty-something woman and a sex-starved wife, I now feel part of a larger community of caring writers, poets and photographers who aim to make a difference, no matter how small, to other people’s lives.  Thank you, thank you, thank you!

The following bloggers, in no specific order, are my nominees for “The Addictive Blog Award”:

  1. Recovering Wayward Spouse’s “And you may ask yourself … well … how did I get here?”
  2. Chris Martin Writes
  3. Find fabulous
  4. Rgonaut’s “I whatever”
  5. The drunken cyclist
  6. A dog with Fleas
  7. Deep Fried Yankee
  8. Project: Expansion
  9. Daddy Drinks
  10. Matt on Not-WordPress

The darker side of a shopping addict

After sneaking another new pair of shoes into the house to avoid detection, I realised that I have a serious shopping problem. 

Confessions of a Shopaholic (film)Yes, yes, we’ve all watched the movie, “Confessions of a shopaholic”;

Yes, we are all very familiar with the term shopaholic; and

Yes, most women glibly claim that they are shopping addicts and just love shopping.

So, is there really such a thing as a shopaholic?  Well, apparently there is!  A shopping addiction even has a name, oniomania, as classified by German psychologist, Emil Kraepelin.

Oniomania (pronounced o-nee-o-may-nee-a) is the psychiatric term for compulsive shoppingAbout.com explains that people with oniomania shop on impulse as a way of coping, and find it difficult to control their spending or shopping behaviours. Moreover, this addiction is perhaps the most socially re-inforced of all behavioural addictions due to influences such as consumerism.

In short, shopping is a behaviour altering activity that is performed excessively as an outlet for emotion or as a way to deal with stress.  

Elizabeth Hartney sums up the characteristics of a shopaholic quite nicely in “Inside the mind of a shopaholic – The personality of the compulsive shopaholic”.  Here, a shopaholic is described as a person with emotional problems such as depression or anxiety, a low self-esteem and difficulties controlling impulses. Add materialistic and indulgence in fantasy to that list and you have an accurate profile of an oniomaniac.

To confirm my suspicions, I decided to score myself according to the Compulsive Buying Scale.  If you score 42.2 or more, you are a compulsive shopper. My score:  50. 

It’s time to start making some lifestyle changes.  I’m going to follow the advice of experts and create a budget to start tracking my spending.  In addition, I plan to remove my credit cards and store cards from my purse and avoid shopping malls for the next 21 days. If that doesn’t help, then I’m increasing my anti-depressant dosage and re-visiting my therapist!

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