Since I’ve been at home a lot more, an interesting pattern has started to emerge. For some reason my husband has been happier than usual. The reason why didn’t really register until recently i.e. I’m now playing the traditional role of a house wife.
When he wakes in the morning I am there to see him off to work with a cup of tea, and when he returns from the office in the afternoon I am there to greet him. Dinner preparations are well underway, the dogs have been fed and the house is neat and tidy. All he really has to do sit down and relax.
I have always been a bit of a homebody, so I find myself slipping quite comfortably into this role without too much of a fuss. I think I’ve always been a traditional girl at heart too. The whole biblical scenario of a woman staying at home to care for her family while the man goes out into the world to bring home the bread and butter, definitely has its merits in my opinion. After all, didn’t God create man to be stronger both physically and emotionally while the woman was created to be man’s companion – a softer, gentler version? Together the partnership is intended to be a win-win scenario.
Yet on the other end of the scale, I also believe that a woman has more than earned the right to be treated fairly and respectfully. I don’t want to be defined by the man in my life; I want to choose my own path. If that means choosing to stay at home and being a housewife, then so be it.
What a contradiction! Can I really be that arrogant to want the best of both worlds? No wonder men are confused as to how to treat a woman. We want to be treated like ladies and still expect a man to open the door for us, to pay for the bill on the first date, to move heavy objects and so on. In the same token, we want to be treated equally, to compete head-on with men in the job market, on the sports field and in the political arena.
I am the product of my environment: a ‘mish-mash’ of old-fashioned values and beliefs mixed with a healthy dose of women’s equal rights to vote, to have a career, to have an active sex life, to choose whether or not to marry and whether or not to have children. There is a generation of women out like me, so thankfully I’m not unique in this respect.
It’s the grey area in between; all we can do is to try and find a balance. I’m enjoying my foray into the domestic goddess realm for the time being. But when I have to focus on my career again, it will be the delicate juggling act that most women encounter: being a career woman, a wife, a homemaker and a mother – all-in-one!
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