I am a firm believer in the continuous ebb and flow of people in our lives. Some people come into our lives and literally stay for a lifetime – others are with us for such a short time, yet they leave such a long-lasting footprint. The same can be said for some of the people that we permit entry into our lives: we allow them to leave behind a big mess!
I’ve allowed many of the latter into my life, only to bear the consequences long after they’ve departed.
That’s not necessarily to say that the people who leave a mess behind are bad people; it’s just that sometimes the situations we encounter with them are overly complicated and could’ve – should’ve – been avoided.
The reason I am bringing this up is because, thanks to my ability to not be discerning enough in who I let into my life and to not draw decisive enough boundaries when they are in my life, I’ve been the recent victim of the gossip grapevine. I’m not going to go into the whole sordid matter too extensively, but I will say that I’ve learnt a valuable lesson. The first lesson is simply that perceptions can become reality.
If people perceive, they believe.
Perceptions are clouded by personal biases, pre-judgement and sometimes just plain ignorance. Ask yourself, would you really be able understand what is going in another person’s life and their relationships if you are simply peering in from the outside? Surely by doing so it could lead to conclusions being drawn without actually been privy to the whole picture?
True, I’ve made many pre-judgements of my own without realising how inaccurate my conclusions really were. I wonder now how many people I’ve hurt in the process? How many reputations I may contributed to blackening? The bible is so true when it says that we are imperfect and therefore we cannot judge other’s imperfections. So lesson number two is to try not to judge others.
Although I am still reeling from the sour aftertaste of the gossip grapevine, the positive side is that it can all be chalked up to valuable life experiences. After all, it’s how I end the race that really counts, not the race itself!
- Reality versus Fiction (2souls1unicycle.wordpress.com)
- closing the gap between what you and I see (writinginsidevt.com)
- Dusting Off the Debris And Moving On (aliaindrawan.com)
- Work Persona – Perception vs. Reality (loosenyourwhitecollar.com)
- Girls with daddy issues behaving badly (teatart.com)