It’s a theory. Only a little theory. And if I tell you, you will have to be sworn to secrecy.
Before you protest, I assure you that all this ‘cloak and dagger’ is indeed necessary. What I am about to share with you is both sensitive and controversial in nature. Men will be appalled. Women may be shocked. So ask yourself, are you prepared – really prepared – to hear a blunt nugget of truth?
Yes? Fine, consider yourself forewarned.
The censored topic is this: men haven’t really bought into the whole ‘women have equal rights’ thing. I am not referring to some of the renowned Middle East countries and the view that women are second class citizens. In this particular instance, I am looking at men and women in established western societies.
For years now women have been able to vote, to hold management positions etc. etc. Most men have seemed more than accepting of this. I would go so far as to say that men happily pronounce that a woman’s body and mind is her own to commandeer as she sees fit.
I have listened to men state emphatically that nothing is more refreshing than a confident and self-assured woman who knows what she wants – especially under the sheets! In relationships, many a man’s ideal woman has been described as someone who is comfortable in her own skin and can also be the initiator or aggressor when it comes to physical intimacy.
But what men say they want and what they really want couldn’t be more different!
In my humble opinion (and I reiterate that I am the queen of stereotypical perspectives), men are actually overwhelmed and intimidated by a woman who fits the abovementioned profile. He feels insecure and pressurised when he is no longer the person in control, scared off by her intensity and seemingly belittled by her perceived demand for intimacy.
It’s neither a black nor white scenario. Rather a large expanse of grey which means that, for now, women like me will remain in limbo – torn between being true to ourselves and trying to ultimately please our male partner.
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