“Babe, do you think I’m too old to wear this mini skirt?”
“Yes, and you would have to run a few kilometres on the treadmill as well!”
This is an example of an actual conversation between my husband and I as I stood in a clothes shop contemplating whether or not to buy this sweet little denim mini. While I have to admire my husband’s honesty, I did not appreciate his recent revelation.
I liked that mini skirt and I knew I could still pull it off! I have nice legs, albeit a little heftier than ten years back. Wearing said mini skirt with a loose, body skimming top that shows-off my long neck, and heels to elongate my legs, would make that outfit a winner on me!
The secret here is awareness. I know I’m not 25 anymore! I know my body has … er … filled out, but just because I’m older doesn’t mean I have to start dressing down! What it does mean though is that, while a young woman may be able to get away with wearing a truly ridiculous looking outfit simply because of her youth, an older woman (and I’m referring to us women in our mid-thirties and up) have to choose our clothing a little more wisely.
In this regard, we actually have a distinct advantage over our younger counterparts: we have more experience and savvy in the style department. That type of experience says to me that at 35 years, my hips are wider, my breasts larger and my midriff less toned. If I wear a boob tube with an open midriff, my breasts are liable to look saggy and my stomach like an unappealing muffin top.
Dressing in flattering apparel gives a woman confidence. A confident woman in turn is damn sexy! If you need a refresher on how to discover your own unique dress sense, here’s a simple and practical 5-step guide that has helped me:
- Firstly, know your body shape. Are you pear-shaped, apple-shaped, an hourglass etc.?
- Read-up on styles that suit your body shape and then choose clothing that is deemed complementary. I am pear-shaped, which means that wearing block colours (and not colourful prints) on my bottom half will draw the eye away from my larger hips. Pair that with a top that draws attention upwards i.e. away from my butt and hips, you then have the ideal outfit for a pear body shape.
- A rule of thumb, no matter what your body shape, is to never show too much skin. If you want to highlight your décolleté, then showing-off your midriff, back, legs and arms all at the same time is overkill. Choose only one asset to emphasise at a time.
- Less is always more with accessories. It’s just not necessary to do ‘death by bling’. Wearing large earrings with a long chain, bangles on each wrist, a studded belt, rings on almost every finger, topped with a toe ring equals overdone accessories!
- The most important rule of all is simple: don’t – I repeat don’t – wear clothes that are either a size too small or too big. If you are on the larger side, then wearing shapeless, oversized clothing will have the opposite effect of covering up your frame. The same can be said for wearing clothing that is too tight – you’ll overflow and you’ll look fatter than you actually are. Look to today’s style icons like Beth Ditto or Sarah Jessica Parker for wardrobe inspiration.
- Style for Style: How To Wear…Mini Skirts (fabsugar.com)
- What does it mean to “Dress your age?” (the-coveted.com)
- Best Swimsuits For Your Body: Pear Shapes (fabsugar.com)
- Body Shapes: The Pear (lifeaccordingtolea.wordpress.com)
- How to Dress a Triangle (/pear) Body Shape (alifeamongflowers.wordpress.com)
- New Rules of Fashion (datelikeyoushop.com)
- The Other Side of The Broom- SlutWalk! (thepurplebroom.wordpress.com)
- Dress and Body Shape – Pear Shape (shestrives.com)